Dear Stepparents, Watch What You Say!

ATTENTION STEPPARENTS!!!

Dear Stepparents of the World,
           Please. Please. Please. Stop screaming at us. I know you think our parents are the "bad guys" and are trying to destroy everything. But just like you think you are doing for us... they just want the best for their kids. Yes, they are going to want to spend time with us, and we are going to want to spend time with them. You have to understand that spending time with both mom and dad are very essential. There is no reason to be jealous over our biological parents, because they were our parents first. Just stay calm and be patient. Everything will work out. We will love you, but you have to make yourself some boundaries first, therefore you do not push us away.

                                                                                                Thanks,
                                                                                                Stepchildren of the World
DO NOT:

• Bash the biological parent
• Make a child feel bad for loving their biological parent
• Force a child to hate the biological parent

DO:

• Treat the biological parent with respect
• Respect a child and parents relationship
• Set boundaries so you do not force your own beliefs/opinions about a biological parent on a child

    No child wants to hear you constantly bash on their own mother. "She doesn't care as much about you as I do", "Your mom is not a good person, didn't you hear?", " You only run to your mom because she doesn't care what you do!". So many untrue words constantly running through your ears. A child can put their hands over their ears and pretend not to listen, but it's not going to stop the words from coming out of a stepparents mouth.

 
If you are a stepparent, here is some help.

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