Stepmonster,
a stepmother who is rude and cruel.
Once
upon a time, my stepmother told my dad that either my sister had to leave or
she was going to leave. My sister was then kicked out of the house. Two years
later, my stepmother had threatened me, and made me choose between my
biological mother, and herself. I made the decision that was best for me, and
left.
There
are several things a stepparent should and should not do, and threatening a
stepchild is not the way to go. You should encourage your child to spend time
with their biological parent, because it is not a competition.
Another thing is, no stepparent
should overstep their bounds, do not over-discipline a kid that is not yours,
especially if it is unnecessary. Being a stepchild that has been through hell
and back with my stepmother because of her overstepping her bounds, I know that
this can push a stepchild away from that family household. I cleaned the house,
cut the grass, got good grades, helped her son in academics and athletics, even
was very successful in my high school sports career, but no matter what I did I
was never good enough for her. Everything I did was wrong. And that is how she
continued to treat me.
No
stepparent should make you feel worthless, or even make you fear coming home.
No stepparent should call you dumb, and stupid. They are supposed to be
supportive and make your home, actually feel like a home.
If a stepparent threatens you, or if you fear them. They are most likely this stepmonster that I am referring to.
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It was very enlightening to learn about your experience with your stepmother. Sharing your experience must be very difficult, but it may be very helpful to those who are going through the same situation as you.
ReplyDeleteMy parents are not divorced so I have not experienced any of this, but I appreciate you giving insight about something personal that can be hard for alot of people. This is a topic I don't really have much knowledge about so I am glad I get to understand it a bit better thanks to your posts.
ReplyDeleteMy parents are divorced and my dad remarried, so I can relate to the fact that you have a stepmom. However, I can't say my experience with my stepmom was anything like yours. I'm so sorry for everything you went through, but from someone who semi-understands your position I have to say I think the fact that your speaking out on this is truly amazing. The topic of divorce and stepparents are extremely difficult to deal with, so I really admire your truthfulness.
ReplyDeleteI really enjoy how you brought up this sensitive topic that lots of people wouldn't want to talk about. Going about it from a personal view point really adds to your blogs and I think it will help others going through a similar situation.
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